BE THE MASTER OF YOUR LIFE

Immerse Yourself With The World's Greatest Legends

2008-04-13T22:30:00.009+08:00

If you want to achieve success beyond your wildest dream, perhaps there is no faster and better way than to learn from those who already have.

I recently got a book called "A Life on Fire - Living Your Life with Passion, Balance & Abundance". The book featuring Healthy Wealthy nWise Magazine interviewing 9 of the world's foremost living legends in today's era. When I say world's foremost, you could expect no less than the caliber of Brian Tracy and Robert Allen.

I have followed some of their success stories and I always be amazed. My craziest dream was so small compared to what they have accomplished. Read this book if you want to know a small fraction of their life, passion and dreams...

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Featuring:

Robert G. Allen

“Send me to any city. Take away my wallet. Give me $100 for living expenses. And in 72 hours, I’ll buy an excellent piece of real estate using none of my own money.”

Challenged by an L.A. Times reporter to live up to his claim, he flew to San Francisco, and under the reporter’s watchful eye, proceeded to buy 6 properties in 57 hours.

Most people assume that “It takes money to make money.” Bob believes, and demonstrates, that the source of true wealth is an internal reservoir of passion, persistence, and powerful systems. Without question Robert Allen is the unparalleled expert in showing average people how to go from a little to a lot in a short period of time.

T. Harv Eker

Starting with a $2,000 loan on his credit card, T. Harv Eker went from zero to millionaire in less than two and a half years. After years of building successful businesses, Harv now teaches some of the most powerful and transformational courses in the world which over 200,000 people have attended. He says: "we all have a 'blueprint' for either success or failure, for wealth or poverty". In this interview, you’ll learn how to change your “financial blueprint” to create the success you want in your life.

Brian Tracy

Brian Tracy, one of America’s leading authorities on the development of human potential and personal effectiveness. Best selling author of more than 28 books (by the time you read this, Brian will certainly have written one or two more), he speaks to over 450,000 people a year. You will love his straightforward answers to the questions in this interview, and the simple, powerful advice he gives which you can put to use immediately.

Live your dream!
Reyn

Bullet-Proof Commitment is the Essence of Your Personal Success

2008-04-07T21:23:00.009+08:00

Having goals to make your life, the way that you want it is important. You should think about the different levels of success that you want and how far you are willing to go after them. Think about all the different methods you can come up with so that you are using your best interest to be as successful as possible.

But you must first make a clear distinction between being interested and being committed. Being interested means you do it when you are comfortable while being committed means you go through no matter what, no excuse. Being committed is going to be something that anyone who is serious about his or her success should do. You need to be committed in life to thinking about all the different strategies that you can work up. Are you are able to be strong and determinate in life to be a huge success? If so then, you are ready to take the next step in life. This step is going to be one that takes you over the top and gives you the ability to be as successful as possible.

There is nothing in life that you cannot do. All you really need in life is to have an unshaken determination and a 'rhino' personality. You should always be ready for what you need to do. Having goals is one way to make sure that you have the power to be a huge success and able to make dreams happen. Your dreams are very crucial to your happiness and all the goals that you have. Without goals, you are going to be a sad and very unstable person.

Being goal oriented is going to make you appreciate everything that you do in life. You should always think about the things that you do and how they are going to affect your life. Are you doing everything that you can to be as successful as possible? Make sure that you are doing all that you can to stay on top of what you need to do. If you plan something, the best thing that you can do is stick to it. You have to make sure that you are trying your best to bring all of your goals to the front of the line and make them happen for you. Make your commitment bullet-proof!

Commitment to everything you do is going to be especially important. You should work hard at what you are doing and keep an open mind to all of the possibilities in life. Choose your thoughts carefully and be willing to go to the next step. You should always work hard and think about what is most important to you. There is nothing that can stop you when you have the right thoughts jammed into your head and thinking about it all the time. You will find more satisfaction in your life when you are sure of what is going on and how hard you have to work.

Others will see your commitment and what you are doing. Once you are recognized for all your hard work and determination, you are going to feel great about what you have achieved. You are going to have more success and know that you did what you had to in order to be a great success story in the end. Do not hesitate to be sure, of what you want in life. When you are setting goals and making commitments to certain things in life, you are the one that is going to be in control and choose what you do next.

Remember goals can be made everyday. You are the one that is going to be able to choose your goals and everything that you do. Make sure that you have something in mind for your life and then go after it. Do not let anyone stand in your way of making your dreams work for you and go after each and everyone. There is no stopping you when you keep all the power within yourself and use your goals to keep you committed to what is most important.

Live your dream!
Reyn

7 Secrets to be a Champion Prospector in Network Marketing

2008-03-28T04:01:00.004+08:00

Prospecting is a business-level strategy that seeks innovation by finding and exploiting new product and market opportunities. But it does not stop just there, a prospector then bring about this news to the whole world to be known. As a network marketer, this is the number one skill that you need in order to build a huge and fast downline.

When you are prospecting, you are telling your potential downline about your network marketing company and then influencing them to join. There are seven secrets that most successful prospector always abide in:

Sell Yourself, Not Your Opportunity
Unless you are promoting a product or an opportunity that everyone already know about and has great reputation, you should never talk much about the technical things or compensation plans. This is crucial in network marketing as people generally do not know about your opportunity at all.

The only probability that the potential downline will join is determined by how you can make them believe that you are truly benefiting from this company. Speak more about you and how you are able to gain profits from the company. When people believe you, they will put their trust in your company as well.
Always be Opening
Be vulnerable to anything your potential customers want to know. Explain everything about the opportunity openly. Do not be closing, because it gives an impression that you are hiding something. And something that is hidden usually bad. Have faith in the company yourself and find out all about it so you can always asnwer any question.
Never Prejudge
Before prospecting, you might think about the person you are about to talk to. This might lead you to prejudge and then leave this person if you think he/she will not be interested. Do not limit your audience, allow everyone to know about the opportunity. Everyone loves to get more money, period.
Shotgun vs Sniper
Shotgun covers wider range but the impact is weak. This is the common mistake that a prospector made; talk to many at the same time. Sniper means one-hit-one-kill, this is what you need as the measure of success in the number of people joining, not the number of people hearing. Pick a few then keep in touch with them about their decision-making process.
Be Offensive
Eagerly explain your opportunity. Act as if it is the biggest opportunity that you have ever stumbled upon (and it should honestly be one of your best at least). People will get excited when you are excited yourself.
Talk Less, Listen More
Most average or below average prospectors usually spend 80% of the time in talking. But a champion prospector do the opposite. Set 20% of your time for explaining the opportunity and save the other 80% for Q&A sessions. Everyone has their own curiosity, so let them ask what they want to know. It also shows that you are not just merely another salesman they often encounter before.
Be a Record Breaker
You will never succeed until you have a clear goal of how high you want to be. Check the current records made by other marketers in your company. Usually they will provide
you with number of downline he/she produced last month or last year. This will be YOUR limit to break for this month or this year.

To be a champion does not necessarily mean have to be an overnight process. The process will take a long time depends on your effort and determination. Just one thing to keep in mind though, you can't fail unless you quit. Be a thick-skinned rhino and let nothing may stop you from reaching your goals.

Remember, winner never quits and quitter never wins.

Live your dream!
Reyn

"The Secret" and the Science of Getting Rich

2008-03-24T00:04:00.002+08:00

Have you heard of the DVD called "the Secret"? Well it isn't such a secret anymore. The DVD was released in March 2006 and according to Time Magazine, the DVD has sold 500,000 units within the first 6 months. Today it sells well over 5,000 copies a day! It ranked in Amazon's Top-5 sellers during Christmas week; and a tie-in hardcover book just entered the Top 10 on the New York times bestseller list.

The amazing thing about "the Secret" is that you won't find it in your local Blockbuster or Barnes and Noble, it is selling briskly through new-age bookstores, New Thought churches like Unity and AGape and the official website at www.thesecret.tv. "It's become the biggest selling item in the 30-year history of our store," says Harmony Rose Allor, a buyer at West Hollywood's popular metaphysical bookshop, The Bodhi Tree. it is "word-of-mouth" marketing at it best.

So what is the secret to "the Secret's" success? It's is a "transformational movie", where a person's view on life and the laws of life will no longer be the same after watching this movie. In a sense, it has created the same kind of effect as "the Da Vinci Code" and the 2004 hit cult movie "What the Bleep Do We Know". The movie has created such waves that it has already been featured on the Oprah Winfrey Show, Larry King Live and the Ellen DeGeneres show.

At the core of the movie is a central philosophy called "the Law of Attraction". In fact, the movie itself was inspired by this very same law when the producer read a book called "the Science of Getting Rich" by Wallace D. Wattles. This books was written in 1910!

This philosophy states that we create our reality, both good and bad! The message is delivered through 24 "teachers" which include prosperity preachers, chiropractic healers, relationship gurus, life coaches and motivational speakers — into one clear, cohesive voice. The movie is a "must watch" for anyone interested in taking charge of their life and in creating the life of their dreams.

Following on the success of the Secret, 3 of the core teachers - namely Bob Proctor and Jack Canfield have collaborated to produce a wealth building program called "the Secret Science of Getting Rich Seminar". This program is based on the book that inspired the movie and is set to make history as the fastest selling personal development program in history.

What is the Science of Getting Rich about? Well in the words of Wallace D. Wattles, "The ownership of money and property comes as a result of doing things in a certain way. Those who do things in this certain way, whether on purpose or accidentally, get rich. Those who do not do things in this certain way, no matter how hard they work or how able they are, remain poor. It is a natural law that like causes always produce like effects. Therefore, any man or woman who learns to do things in this certain way will infallibly get rich." The Science of Getting Rich is all about teaching how to do things in this "certain" way to create wealth.

The success of this program is built on several rock solid foundations. These factors include: the phenomenal success of "the Secret", the timeless concepts from the Science of Getting Rich by Wallace D. Wattles, the credibility of successful personal improvement teachers and New Thought leaders of our time, and the Internet as the distribution medium.

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Reyn

Great Report on Law of Attraction

2008-03-20T01:50:00.000+08:00

If you know about "The Secret" and you watched the DVD before, you'd know exactly how powerful the Law of Attraction can be in positively changing your life. And if you're a BIG fan of "The Secret", well... I've got some great news for you!

I've managed to obtain a special interview done with Bob Proctor where he reveals how you can use the Law of Attraction to achieve your goals and become a success in life. If you recall, Bob was heavily featured in "The Secret" and he is most famous for his Science of Getting Rich program.

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This special interview is in a 21-page PDF report and it's yours to download, absolutely FREE.

Hope you enjoy the read!
Reyn

Famous Law of Attraction Teachers

2008-03-18T12:48:00.001+08:00

According to the Law of Attraction, all things are possible to those who can believe and visualize them. Different speakers and writers have slightly different takes on the basic principles of the Law of Attraction. These famous Law of Attraction personalities have a lot to say about the subject.

One Law of Attraction speaker and teacher is Jack Canfield. Most people know of his Chicken Soup for the Soul, etc. books. He has also been teaching success strategies to people and businesses for three decades.

If you listen to Canfield, you will accept that your thinking, feelings, and actions will work together to make your life what it is. This will happen if you are in a good state of being or a bad one. You get what you put out there. That's the Law of Attraction.

The Reverend Dr. Michael Bernard Beckwith has been working with a spiritual version of the Law of Attraction since 1986. It was then that he started up the Agape Center. This center is something like a church, but is not exactly one.

The Agape Center is built around the concept that if you want good things for the world, you will help to make them happen. This could happen when you suddenly get an inspiration to do something to help people. His goal is to make the world a better place by using principles such as the Law of Attraction.

There is one man, Dr. Joe Vitale, who takes a rather hard line on the Law of Attraction. He is of the opinion that you bring to yourself all that happens to you. This can be a horrible wreck or a fire. It doesn't matter. If it's in your life, you created it. Of course, he gives credit for the good things you bring yourself as well.

An interesting character in the study of the Law of Attraction is Dr. Fred Alan Wolf. This man has been studying theoretical physics for over forty years. His specialty now is quantum physics and how it relates to the mind. He studies this with the Law of Attraction in mind. He also won a National Book Award in 1982 for Taking the Quantum Leap, which is based on this type of study.

There is a therapist that is fairly well known for her work with the Law of Attraction. Her name is Jayne Payne. She sees patients who are bogged down in the misery of their past. All they can see is what they need. She helps them to forget that and believe in what they want by using the Law of Attraction.

Esther and Jerry Hicks have written several books on the subject of the Law of Attraction. They have made names for themselves by speaking for a being of sorts they call Abraham-Hicks. To some, it sounds a little unusual, but others feel enlightened by the books.

Jerry first became interested in related subjects. Then, Esther eventually followed his lead. Soon, they were completely involved in the movement. Now, the Hickses teach seminars and lecture. Of course, they continue to write works on the Law of Attraction.

The Law of Attraction has been an important source of discussion for many years. Before it was ever thought about in the way it is now, it was referred to by great leaders for centuries. There is an abundance of people willing to speak of it now. So, it is certain that the concept will live on for generations to come.

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Reyn

Gratitude and the Law of Attraction

2008-03-17T02:45:00.002+08:00

If the Law of Attraction works, you will surely be grateful for all that you receive as a result of practicing it. Life will be easier and more abundant. However, you actually need to start out with a feeling of gratitude before you can expect good things to come. This is what the Law of Attraction is about. When you believe fantastic things are already happening for you, you will be grateful. According to the Law of Attraction, it is important to believe. Furthermore, being grateful for something you believe is happening sends out positive vibrations into the universe. This brings the good things to you by way of the Law of Attraction.

Without even thinking of the future, you can use the Law of Attraction to draw the positive things to you. If you are thankful for the things in your life, you will be focused in on the good energy inherent in your grateful mind. The Law of Attraction is evident in the way being grateful brings you more to be grateful for. Think of the way things snowball, both the good and the bad. You might wake up in a bad mood because you resent a noisy neighbor for keeping you up late. If you let that bad mood win out, more negative things will continue to happen to you all day long. When you consider the Law of Attraction, you will see why this happens.

If, however, you brush off the bad feelings and replace them with gratitude you will be surprised at how much better your day will go. Use the Law of Attraction to help you along. You may be thankful that you woke up beside your loving spouse, or you might be grateful that you have a job to go to. Whatever it is, the Law of Attraction will make it work for you.

So, the Law of Attraction works on a system of gratitude and reward. You need a way to remind yourself to always be grateful for the good things in your life. Some people set aside a certain time each day to list the things they're thankful for. They might compile them in a journal and look over them all from time to time.

The Law of Attraction is built on good habits. You can carry some sort of talisman. It can be anything from a rock to a coin. It can be anything you will handle daily. Some people put these items in their pockets. Some put them on a string around their necks. The idea is that every time you touch it, you feel gratitude. If at all possible, you express that gratitude to others. Your mind will become geared towards thinking in terms of what you are thankful for. This will allow the Law of Attraction to do its work.

Your mind controls who and what you are. According to the Law of Attraction, it can also change what you have. This may be material possessions, relationships, or health. If you are in a mindset of gratitude, you are in a position to make the Law of Attraction bring to you all that you desire.

Live your dream!
Reyn

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How to Practice the Laws of Attraction

2008-03-16T00:44:00.001+08:00

Imagine that you had all the money you could ever want. You had great relationships and perfect health. Imagine you spent your life in peace and joy. If you practice the Laws of Attraction, these things can come true for you. The first thing you must do to practice the Laws of Attraction is to embrace a feeling of gratitude. Be thankful for everything that you have. Focusing on the good things in your life will help you key in on positive feelings.

These positive feelings will translate into a positive energy, according to the Laws of Attraction. When you send out this kind of positive energy, you will see good things come back to you in return through the Laws of Attraction. You can concentrate on the positive things by holding some kind of talisman in your pocket, for example. This will help you remember to be thankful every time you touch it.

Another thing to do in practicing the Laws of Attraction is to become aware of what kinds of thoughts you are having. Most people go through the day with thoughts flitting in and out of their heads. They pay them little heed. If you are aware of the Laws of Attraction, you can monitor your thoughts to a certain degree. You can get a feel for just what direction your thoughts are going. Are they leading you toward a negative situation? If so, it's time to use the Laws of Attraction to change all that.

Figure out what it is that you want. Don't limit yourself to easy things to get, either. The universe gives out no different effort to give you a little thing than it does to give you something that is fantastic. So, go for your dreams. The Laws of Attraction can supply them.

Maybe you don't really know what you want. You've been told for so long that you can't have it that you've stopped wanting it. It's time to do some soul searching and really find out what you could get through the Laws of Attraction that would please you. Look through catalogs and go to showroom floors and model houses. You might get some ideas. Once you become excited about something, your positive energy will become all the more powerful through the Laws of Attraction.

Once you know what you want, it's simple. Just ask for it. Say it, write it, and believe in it. Think of it as if it has already happened. Imagine that it has, using the Laws of Attraction. Don't do this in a whimsical, "gee wouldn't it be swell" way, but actually close your eyes and visualize it. Don't expect to know the method by which your dreams will come true. The Laws of Attraction don't work that way. You just need to trust that a good thing will happen, and leave the "how" up to the universe.

Knowing the Laws of Attraction can change your life. It takes a certain mindset to work with the Laws of Attraction, but it is not hard to master. It just takes some time, patience, and most of all, a lot of faith.

Live your dream!
Reyn

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The Secret: Law of Attraction

2008-03-15T02:30:00.001+08:00

If there is a secret in the universe that can bring you good things, it could be the Law of Attraction. This can bring you happiness, wealth, and physical well-being. You only have to know how to apply it. A few basic concepts of the Law of Attraction can help you on your way.

One of the concepts central to the Law of Attraction is that the things you think become reality. The things you think are energy, just as the entire universe is energy. As you ponder your reality, or simply let thoughts run through your mind, you are shaping your reality. You do this by means of the Law of Attraction. The energy you send out collects with like energy. Then, the universe responds to your feelings by returning the energy back to you. This happens for good or bad feelings.

Another basic concept is that it is too difficult to monitor every one of some 60,000 thoughts you have every day. The goal, instead, should be to foster a feeling of happiness, gratitude, and well-being. This will go further than trying to change every thought individually. Feelings are important to the Law of Attraction.

One assumption of users of the Law of Attraction is that life is meant to be joyous and fulfilling. Many people feel that their lives can be no more than difficult work situations, unhappy relationships, poor health, and a mountain of debt. Unless these people change their attitudes, they can never know the abundance they can get through the Law of Attraction.

There can never be a lack of anything that you want if you follow the Law of Attraction. This is another concept of the movement. It means that there is enough for everyone to have what they want. This is especially true because some people want certain things and other people want something else.

According to the Law of Attraction, what you want is always possible. One concept of the Law of Attraction can be stated as something like, "what you get is what you see." What this means in this case is that when you see a result, you will vibrate with energy based on that result. If you see good, you will send out good energy.

This energy will return to you in the form of more positive results. So, if you want positive results, you need to find a way to see the good in situations. This is how the Law of Attraction works. If you see good, more good will return to you. The concept of asking for particular things is a part of the Law of Attraction. When you command the universe to give you what you want, you can get it. To do this, you must believe in it. Then, you must accept it as if you had already gotten it. Then you will find the Law of Attraction bringing all kinds of good things your way.

The Law of Attraction is at once both simple and complex. You must only ask and receive. Yet, to do that in confidence, you must work to restructure your whole way of thinking. To do this it is good to study the concepts of the Law of Attraction.

Live your dream!
Reyn

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The Origin of Subliminal Techniques

2008-03-14T03:42:00.000+08:00

The U.S. Government banned them on TV and radio in 1974. They were once famously used to boost sales of popcorn by almost 60%. And today, they’re the subject of numerous Derren Brown-style “mind” shows airing throughout the globe.

I’m talking, of course, about subliminal messages.

However, despite all the media hype, subliminal messages aren’t just used by advertising moguls trying to get us to buy another can of coke. They can also be employed to make serious and lasting change in our own lives.

In this short article, I’m going to share a method you can use to get subliminal messages working for you — starting tonight!

But before we begin, let’s ask ourselves: what exactly are subliminal messages?

Subliminal is defined as “below the threshold of consciousness.” Subliminal messaging refers to the act of sending messages direct to the powerful subconscious mind, the part of your brain that controls everything from memory to body temperature to providing your conscious mind with its core traits.

The most famous experiment in subliminal messaging history was conducted by pioneer Dr. James Vicary, who flashed the words “I want popcorn” and “Drink more coke” in front of a movie audience for just 100 milliseconds. Nobody officially “saw” the messages — they were below the threshold of consciousness — yet popcorn sales shot up 57.8% and coke sales increased 18.1%.

The U.S. Government soon outlawed this powerful suggestion technique in advertising, yet its potential as a revolutionary self-help tool was soon realized. The power to send self-improvement commands direct to the subconscious mind was suddenly available to the masses.

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Reyn

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How to Surely Gain Respect from Others

2008-03-12T22:40:00.005+08:00

One of the basic needs of man is to feel accepted. Knowing this is the secret to establishing and maintaining great relationships with various types of people.

A number of books, articles and seminars have taken the role of educating people like you on the different ways of associating with people and building lasting relationships with them. There are several things that you can do when associating with other people.

One of these is to make them feel accepted. According to Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, one of man’s basic needs is to feel a sense of belonging to a group. Man feels the sense of belonging in either small groups like a family and small circle of friends, or big groups like clubs, teams, associations, departments and parties.

People have to feel they belong and are needed. One way to convey acceptance of people’s ideas is by simply listening. Listening communicates the message that their thoughts are valued and their inputs are significant. It answers the very basic need to belong and provides a sense of importance.

Have you ever been in any of the following situations?

While sharing an important insight, somebody would finish the sentence for you.
While narrating what happened over the weekend, somebody would butt in and narrate a similar story.
In a meeting, the boss would cut you short while you are still explaining your side.
You ask your child about his day in school and he runs straight to his room.
You wanted to discuss something with your spouse but he is busy watching football.

How did you feel? Not good, right? It’s as if you are taken for granted. It’s as if no one is listening to you and that you do not matter. It signifies that your thoughts, concerns, and ideas are not accepted.

At the onset of life, an infant can feel this sense of acceptance from a mother who touches and caresses him in a loving way. As he grows older, his sense of acceptance and importance now comes from other family members, friends, teachers, peers, bosses, officemates, spouse, children, etc. Every person needs to be accepted. It puts meaning to a person’s existence.

Imagine a life with total absence of acceptance. Envision the life of babies who were abandoned by their mothers. Imagine the effect this will have on the babies’ emotional well-being. It is very possible that these kids will grow up dejected and feeling discriminated. The effects of discrimination can result to resentment and, if uncontrolled, can result to violent tendencies.

The feeling of resentment that is harbored overtime can escalate to anger and hostility. When a person becomes hostile, violence erupts. Resentment is like a forest fire - it can turn wild especially when fanned with more resentments. The mere civil act of accepting a person “can make or break them,” as the saying goes.

Acceptance must be done unconditionally. The giver should not expect anything in return. There should be no “no strings attached” or no commitments to fulfill. To expect something in return defeats the purpose of making others like you. In fact, this may only breed resentment, for it would appear that you are manipulating people by forcing them into a situation they may not like in the future.

Unconditional acceptance of other people’s thoughts, ideas, and concerns can yield favorable outcomes. Acceptance elicits cooperation and this leads to working towards a common goal. Acceptance yields positive and fruitful results. At the same time, you have raised the esteem, importance, and morale of the person whom you have accorded respect and acceptance.

Be willing to accept other people’s ideas, thoughts, and inputs. You will harvest not only good results, but also the admiration and appreciation of others, as well.

Live your dream!
Reyn

How to Deal with People to Get What You Want

2008-03-12T01:58:00.000+08:00

People communicate with each other in various ways for a lot of reasons. And one of these reasons is when you need something from someone. For people in business, this can either be in the form of products or services. You may want to sell a product while the other party must find your product useful for his intention. You may want to offer your services while the other party must be satisfied with the services you render according to his needs. In short, the way to get somebody or anybody to do what you want is to make them want to do it.

To get something you want through intimidation or violence is to invite trouble. Yes, it’s possible but not advisable to use forceful methods because the results are undesirable and at times disastrous. Imagine if you force an employee to take a leave of absence for having apparently violated a company rule. The relationship between management and the employee, or perhaps between management and union (if the employee is a member of it), is likely to be severed.

"To get what you want, give people what they want"

Just what do people want? Physical health, family ties, financial security, spiritual growth, peace of mind, a successful career, and fame are the basic needs of people. There is one important yet intangible thing everybody wants and that is appreciation. Being appreciated and complimented makes a person feel important. When you feel important, you feel needed and wanted, and this gives you a whole lot of reason for existence.

Just how do you give somebody the feeling of importance? Say it, act it; just give it freely, honestly, and wholeheartedly. As literal as it is, saying how appreciative you are for a favor received, makes the other person feel important. You may not be able to describe exactly in words the feeling of importance when you’re in the shoes of the recipient. But definitely, what you can not describe is real and priceless.

Pre-empt importance. Give some sort of sign to the other person that what you want from him, will make him feel important. Let’s take charity for example. A recipient wants or needs contributions from the giver. It can either be material or service contribution, or both. Even before the act itself, the giver somehow expects appreciation from the recipient and this will give him a boost of importance. Appreciation may not necessarily be in words. A smile and/or a pat would suffice and they can come from both giver and recipient. The giver shows his feeling of being appreciated. The recipient shows his feeling of appreciation for the gift. Somehow magic or chemistry takes place. It’s a feeling both parties would enjoy happening many times over.

Are you aware that the feeling of importance, brought about by compliments and appreciation, is good for your health, mentally and physically? Whether you are the giver or recipient, it is good for both. There are medical findings that substantiate health effects brought about by positive emotions like compliments and appreciation. Frequent doses of the feeling of importance activate the brain cells and various harmonies in the body that promote good health. To put it plainly, the feeling of importance is the antioxidant of life.

Can you think of a better way to nourish other people’s feelings than to show your concern and appreciation? Well, you can show something better than appreciation, and that is - a truckload of appreciation.

You know what you and I and everybody else should be doing right now? We should go out there and show our feeling of appreciation to everything and everybody. Let’s go!

Live your dream!
Reyn

How to Beat the Bad Day Blues

2008-03-10T16:02:00.012+08:00

Whenever you have a bad day for whatever reason, what you need to do is think. Think hard, but not about the misery or the misfortune that has hit you. You may be of the opinion, of course, the unfortunate events or experiences of the day are going to haunt you, put you under depression and mental stress, drain your emotions of their usual energy, kill your enthusiasm for life and spoil everything that you hold dear in life. In short, your negative thoughts may make your bad day seem worse than it actually is. Undoubtedly, that will be the case if you surrender yourself to the consequences, not otherwise. If you take control, you can devise ways and means of beating the bad day blues.

Since negative thoughts and emotions tend to overwhelm you on a bad day, you must think of strategies that thwart them. Turn to vigorous physical work out. Or, take a long walk or go swimming. Or, just get out into the open and sit somewhere and observe the plants and trees and flowers or the sunset, if it is sunset time. Read a pleasurable book, watch a funny movie or do something that distances you from the bad day situation, preferably both physically and, more importantly, mentally.

The good times
Remember the good ol’ days that enriched your life in the past, all the happy experiences that elevated your spirits and all those special friends and relatives who brought cheer and laughter into your life. Think of the good things of your life and be grateful for the blessings bestowed on you. Put against the bright light of your appreciation of all those better days, this single bad day or a small bunch of bad days will pale into insignificance.

Do not wallow in your bad moods and emotions because that is a sure way of plunging deeper into sorrow. A bad day will not become a good day by stewing over it. Remember that a bad day is just one passing day. It might have left a few scars on your mind and body but is important to remember that the pain is temporary. Time is a great healer. Today, just ignore the negative aspects of the day. Instead, look at the positive side of the bad event or happening that spoiled your day. Are there any lessons in it for your future? How can you avoid getting into the same or similar situation?

This does not mean that you start thinking about your purpose in life, your personal relationships, your career graph or your future on a bad day. The day is not suitable for taking any major decisions about your future life, because such decisions cannot be sound, given the dark background. Put off taking important decisions till a better day when you regain your mental poise and composure.

One simple formula that will help you on your bad day lies in the fact that your sorrows get divided and your pleasures get multiplied when you share them with your close friends or confidantes. You may try to overcome your bad day by discussing your problems with your close friends.

Any or all of these easy-to-adopt measures will be helpful in providing relief to you on a bad day.

Live your dream!
Reyn

Get Rid of Procrastination, Now!

2008-03-09T19:40:00.008+08:00

Do you put off your work for later, only to find your deadlines steadily creeping in? Then you, my friend, are one of the millions of people afflicted by the procrastination virus. Procrastination is the biggest reason for loss of productivity and late output. Though many would not admit it, they would benefit greatly if they start their work on time.

For many people, putting off their work for later is more habit than desire. It can be so hard to get into a groove where starting your tasks in a timely fashion is a priority, especially if the consequences for being late are things that one can probably bear.

If you are one of these people, yet you desire to shake off your propensity for procrastination, then you have come to the right place. Here are a few tips to help you overcome this dilemma and become a more productive and reliable person.

Set schedules – It is very important that you have a list of activities to accomplish per day. This will help you realistically budget your time and resources. One of the cardinal sins people commit in regards to performing their tasks is to put off their work because they feel like there is so much time left. A journal, organizer, or calendar of events will help you plan and schedule your task so that you can start them promptly and finish them on time.
Save the Vacation for Later – Many people put their work off for later saying, “I'll just have a little fun then buckle down to work later.” While it may be true that they may have more than enough time to accomplish their tasks, it would be better if they finished their work first and relax afterwards.

Wouldn't relaxation be sweeter if it were after a taxing job? If you choose to lay back and relax before doing your tasks, you will be more prone to burnout and will have nothing exciting left to look forward to after accomplishing a task. It is always better to have slack period AFTER a job than before one, especially considering that people are wont to overusing their slack time. This is suicide if you are heading towards a deadline.
Never Underestimate Your Tasks – Sometimes procrastination sets in because people underestimate the resources, difficulty, and time spent for a particular task. They will usually say, “It's just mowing the lawn, its easy; I could do it in a jiffy.” The problem is, no matter how trivial the task, it still takes time and resources to accomplish. If you underestimate a task, you will most likely set too little time to do it and schedule it too close to its deadline.
Don't Allow Yourself to Get Comfortable Doing Nothing – It would definitely help if you kept a subconscious alarm whenever you are doing nothing. Get this alarm to remind you of things that may need to be done. This will help you foster the notion that jobs accomplished now means more time for relaxation later. However, even if this is the case, do not forget to put ample time in for rest and to remove all thoughts of troubles before hitting the sack. The trick here, however, is not to overdo you rest. There is a difference between resting and idling. Always set the right amount of time for rest and stick to that schedule.

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Reyn

Accelerate Your Learning Powers Using Subliminal Learning

2008-03-08T18:37:00.000+08:00

Subliminal learning is the use of techniques that allow people to learn even without any conscious effort at all. It does this by exposing one to stimulus they are not or barely aware of – images that flash on the screen for barely perceptible moments, words played over and over again at a volume just above the hearing threshold, or other such stimulus. The discovery of such methods has aroused the excitement of many people because of its potential to boost the learning process and make acquiring new skills a lot more painless and effective.

The possibilities are definitely boundless. Just imagine. If this were true, you would be able to learn new things without having to buckle down and do the dirty work. For example, it has been argued that learning a language is theoretically possible using subliminal techniques – no need for books, teachers, and other learning implements, except for your subliminal learning equipment. You also won’t have to lose time to learn tedious language lessons. You could have your subliminal equipment on while you do other stuffs – and in some programs – even while you sleep.

Some common applications of subliminal learning include new languages, vocabulary skills, music, and even behavior modification programs.

It may seem ridiculous at first, but once you get a good grasp of the theories of learning – plus the potential and limitations of subliminal learning - you will find out that it really isn’t implausible after all. For example, there are actually things you do every day that you learn even if you don’t expend any conscious effort to do so.

Ever wondered how a song got stuck in your head even if you hated the song and tried your best not to pay attention to it? Somehow, the meaty chorus of the song finds its way into your subconscious and never leaves, doesn’t it?

What about words? Haven’t you wondered how a certain word came into your vocabulary even though you never remembered trying to memorize the word or use it purposefully? You probably heard the word somewhere – maybe at work, or from your friends, or even from the TV or the radio, and suddenly, poof, it’s made permanent residence in your head - without your notice.

Now, looking at these examples, people have begun to wonder about the possibilities if we could push the envelop and take advantage of this particular quirk in one’s learning process to somehow “accelerate” the rate of learning among students. Thus was born the wonders of subliminal learning.

Scientists have been digging hard and thorough on the subject of subliminal learning. Although it is theoretically possible to have such techniques do much for accelerated learning, there will always be skeptics who look for empirical proof from scientific studies before even considering subliminal learning. Little by little, these scientists have come to learn more about how we process and store knowledge, and are receiving heartening results from their studies on subliminal learning.

On a small scale, they are convinced that some skills can be learned through subliminal learning – especially those that are not “high-process” data such as patterns, words, numbers, and other easy visual data. Other skills such as languages and mathematics are “high-process” skills that require full attention and thought when performed. However, learning these skills is still beneficial when learned in conjunction with subliminal learning.

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Reyn

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Unleash Your Full Potential

2008-03-07T18:45:00.005+08:00

While many of us are happy in life and do accomplish to some extent what we set out to do, there aren’t many that actually push themselves that little bit further and go on to develop their full potential. While we might be particularly good at doing certain things in life we could excel if only we had the courage and belief in ourselves to go for it.

As children we are full of excellent ideas, they never stop flowing because we have an open mind and belief in ourselves that we can accomplish just about anything. However, as we grow up fear of if we are doing the right thing and of speaking out and being ridiculed takes over and we stem the flow of our imagination and ideas. We hold back our thoughts and this can stop us from developing our full potential.

There are many ways you can start developing your potential, it’s never too late. You should remember that there is no right and wrong way of thinking and many times the reason why others try to make you feel inferior when you voice opinions and ideas is because they wish they had had the idea and courage to speak up. So focus on your skills and abilities and let your thoughts run free, put them to use and truly excel in life.

In order to be successful you should realize that you will sometimes make mistakes, no one is perfect and mistakes are ok providing you acknowledge them and learn from them. Characteristics that you can nurture and that will lead to developing your true and full potential include:

Working hard – putting your all into everything you do when working towards what you want in life
Having patience – things don’t happen overnight so have patience and you will be rewarded
Determination – stick to your guns and never give in when things don’t go your way or you come across hurdles
Commitment – be committed towards your goals and what you what to achieve, set goals in mind and don’t let anything or anyone stand in your way of reaching them
Organizational skills – the more organized you are the easier the road to success will be, plan out your ideas to their fullest before putting them into action
Learn from mistakes – you will make mistakes along the way but you can learn valuable lessons from these and move on
Confidence in yourself – you have to be self-confident and believe in yourself and your ideas, there is no room for doubt
Stay realistic – don’t set yourself goals that you cannot realistically achieve in a set amount of time, by setting yourself unrealistic goals you are setting yourself up for failure again and again.

When developing your full potential the two most important things to remember are, what you want out of life and what you can realistically do to make that possible. Once you have these facts clear then you can go full steam ahead towards achieving what you want.

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Reyn

Never Settle for Mediocrity

2008-03-06T17:58:00.000+08:00

Mediocrity means ordinariness as a consequence of being average and not outstanding. Sometime, it is comfortable for us to just be still and feel good of the way things come and go. And most of the time, we are too relaxed and satisfied of what we get, when actually we only get to the point of where everyone else is. There's nothing bad about enjoying yourself but when we start to get comfortable in mediocrity, we are in danger of being unable to reach success.

True success in life can only come by not settling for mediocrity, we should always strive to achieve and get the most out of life that we possibly can, it is only when we push ourselves and give it all we’ve got can we then give ourselves a pat on the back for a job well done. Success in life depends on self-discipline and not giving in at the first hurdle you come across or going into a project only half heartedly, by pushing yourself that little bit further you will be surprised at what you are capable of achieving, this is what separates the winners from the losers or the successful from the unsuccessful.

All people say that they want to succeed in life at whatever they do but very few are willing to actually push themselves them little bit further in order to achieve their goals, and this is why some of us succeed in life and others fail. How well you succeed is all about how bad you want the success, what it means to you, are you willing to succeed a little or are you willing to go the whole way and beyond to achieve a higher status and be outstanding?

We all start out with the best of intentions when racing towards the goals we have set, we shoot out of the starting gate and run down the straight but many of us fall back at the first hurdle, we don’t push, we run out of steam when the going gets tough and don’t pause to catch our second wind but come to a halt and give up, or stumble on half heartedly and cross the line in second or third place at best.

Those who do have the winning streak in them, who know that with a little extra push and a pause to catch their breath and then a final sprint down the home straight and past the winning post a head in front of their competitors are the ones that end up with the glory and true success in life.

Of course all those who are successful don’t just rely on pushing themselves, all winners have a strategy and are willing to be flexible on their way to success because life has a way of throwing many different spanners into the works along the way. We have to be able to adapt to these unexpected happenings when they occur and not get bogged down, we have to take them in our stride, skip around them and continue in the race.

"Never settle for anything less than giving it you’re all.

When you feel comfortable, that's when you should challange yourself harder."

Here are some tips to help you remember never to settle for anything but your best no matter what the project is:

It doesn’t matter how big or small the project put your all into getting it completed
If you think you have given it your best shot, pause and ask yourself “could I improve”
Plan our your project but always be willing to make changes and work your way around the unexpected
It’s ok to pause but get back into the race and carry on until you pass the winning post

Live your dream!
Reyn

Transform Bad Habits into Good Ones

2008-03-06T17:56:00.000+08:00

We all have habits and some of these habits are bad ones, kicking a bad habit and turning it into a more positive one is hard but is well worth the effort if you put your mind to succeeding. Our habits can determine our life to an extent and affect the way we feel and think, bad habits affect our self-esteem and lead to negativity while good habits lead to a feeling of achievement, accomplishment and positive thinking. So what is the key to successfully breaking our bad habits and replacing them with ones that are more positive? Listed below are some helpful techniques that you can put to use to change your bad habits into more positive ones.

Make a list
Make a list of all the reasons why you want to stop your habit, really give it some thought and list as many reasons as possible for giving up. For example if smoking is your habit and you wish to give up then you could put down things like its costs me x amount of money every year, it makes my clothes, hair and breath smell, it makes the whole house smell. By listing as many reasons as you can as to why you want to give up it will allow you to see in black and white what it is that you don’t like about your habit and why you should give it up.

Analyze yourself
Ask yourself what it is that you are getting out of your habit, are you really getting what you want from it? Do you really enjoy it? Or is the habit exactly that, just a habit that you have done for so long that you would feel uncomfortable without doing it?

List positive things you could swap your habit for
Stop and think what you could do to replace your habit that would be more positive, for example you could take up a hobby, workout, read, go for a walk, do chores around the home or take up an adult education class. All of these can help you to take your mind off and break your habit.

Visualize
Visualize how you would feel and the changes there would be if you broke your habit, for example if you are a smoker and wish to quit then picture the differences it would make if you did quit and replaced smoking with say working out. Picture yourself being able to breathe easier, your taste buds improving, your clothes, hair and home smelling fresher and cleaner and what you could buy from the money you saved.

Take one day at a time
Always take one day at a time when trying to break a habit, never look into the future and start to think how will I cope in certain situations. Choose a day to give up your habit and stick with it no matter what comes up, keeping a journal can also help you to deal with kicking your habits and is helpful to get your thoughts and feelings out at the most frustrating times.

Live your dream!
Reyn

Give Yourself a Mood Boost - 15-30 Minutes

2008-03-06T09:50:00.000+08:00

If you have 15 minutes to spare you can:

De-clutter your desk or an area of your home
Treat yourself to a moisturizing mask
Change into a favorite piece of clothing and admire yourself
Do a few quick and easy exercises or stretches
Read a few pages of a book or magazine you enjoy
Make yourself a big fresh fruit smoothie, sit down and enjoy it
Make a list of all the people you haven’t been in touch with in a while and schedule a time to call each of them
Write down what you have enjoyed doing so far during the day in your journal
Find a comfortable spot, close your eyes and enjoy the silence, sound of rain or chirping birds

If you have 30 minutes spare you can:

Call someone you haven’t talked with in a while and catch up on all the gossip you missed
Use your computer to look for ideas for your summer vacation
Take a soak in a tub full of your favorite bubbles or skin softener
Listen to your favorite CD
Go to your local store and treat yourself
Go for a walk and say hello to everyone you meet
Turn off the TV, phone and anything else that could disturb you and sit down and enjoy peace and quiet for a half-hour
Plan a quiet romantic meal
Write a letter to someone special and mail it
Discover a new recipe on the internet and plan to cook it for dinner
Replace any old photographs you have in frames with more updated pictures

Live your dream!
Reyn

Give Yourself a Mood Boost - 5 Minutes

2008-03-06T09:48:00.000+08:00

There are many little changes we can make in our lives that can give our mood a boost, boosting your mood brightens up your day, brings a smile and makes life that little bit easier to deal with. Just by making the smallest changes and taking as little as 5 minutes from your day you could be surprised with the difference it can make. It doesn’t have to be anything outlandish, just something you wouldn’t normally consider doing. Here are some tips to help give you that quick mood boost and can be done whenever you are feeling out of sorts with the world or feeling a little down.

If you have 5 minutes to spare you can:

Take out your daily goal planner and write something down that you already completed today and cross it straight off the list
Take the weight off your feet and eat one of your 5 daily portions of fruit or veg
Look at yourself in the mirror and pull as many different funny faces as you can in 5 minutes
Read the comics in the daily paper
Take a quick shower or at least splash your face with water
Use some of that expensive perfume or deodorant you had bought and enjoy the fragrance

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Reyn

Tips to Help You Change

2008-03-05T15:23:00.001+08:00

Clear the clutter – start your new outlook by clearing out all the clutter that is unnecessary in your life, this can be anything from your old clothes in the back of the closet that you will never wear again or the pile of magazines or newspapers tucked in the corner. Throw it all away and start fresh and clean, getting rid of clutter is an excellent step towards changing your outlook and losing old baggage.
Attend a self-help course – if you need a helping hand to get you started then there are many classes that give help and advice for taking the first steps to taking control over your life.
Read books and watch DVD’s – if going to a class is not for you then take advice from the many DVD’s and books that are out there to gain inspiration and set you on the right path.

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Reyn

Taking the First Step

2008-03-05T15:21:00.000+08:00

The first thing you should realize is that you and only you has the power to change and the secret to this is freeing your mind and body to start moving forward and making the changes needed. With a more positive attitude you will be able to change the way you feel and react and more importantly what you are able to achieve, you will be able to do this because you will have a different attitude towards life in general, others around you and how you are able to handle situations. Of course the changes will be small in the beginning but slowly you will begin to realize that changes are happening and it is you that is making this happen, you don’t have to rely on anyone else. Along with the positive changes you will feel better, have more self-esteem, confidence, be more enthusiastic and be self-motivated.

Taking responsibility for your life and realizing that you alone hold the power to the changes that are happening around you will bring enormous self-satisfaction if you simply remember to always keep an open mind and remember that you have nothing to lose.

Live your dream!
Reyn

Decide What It is You Want From Life

2008-03-05T15:20:00.002+08:00

The first step to changing is deciding what it is exactly that you wish to change in your life or yourself, do you wish to change you yourself or is there some aspect in your life that you wish to change? Write down exactly what it is that you wish to change, making a list of everything that you aren’t happy with and what changes you wish to make. How we feel about ourselves has a lot to do with how we see life, if we are full of self-doubt and no confidence then this shows in how we present ourselves, too much self-doubt gets us down so the first step to taking your life back into your own hands is to change your outlook.

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Reyn

Change is in Your Hands

2008-03-05T15:20:00.001+08:00

Many people are put off from achieving what they really want to do in life simply because they do not have belief in themselves that they can, for these people the words “if only” are their first thought. Little do they realize that they have the power within themselves to accomplish anything if they are willing to change themselves?

Simply by changing how you think and feel gives you the power to change your life to the one you want, where everything is possible and within reach. Too often people think that change is beyond their control and so feel totally powerless to do anything to change the situation, however simply by changing ourselves or our outlook on life we can begin to take charge of our lives and make the changes needed.

Live your dream!
Reyn

Positively Change Your Way of Thinking

2008-03-03T18:41:00.000+08:00

When an event triggers negative thoughts, you may experience fear, insecurity, anxiety, depression, rage, guilt, and a sense of worthlessness or powerlessness. These emotions trigger the body's stress, just as an actual threat does. Dealing with your negative thoughts and how you see things positively can help reduce stress.

Thought-stopping helps you stop a negative thought to help eliminate stress.
Disproving irrational thoughts helps you to avoid exaggerating the negative thought, anticipating the worst, and interpreting an event incorrectly.
Problem solving helps you identify all aspects of a stressful event and find ways to deal with it.
Changing your communication style helps you communicate in a way that makes your views known without making others feel put down, hostile, or intimidated. This reduces the stress that comes from poor communication. Use the assertiveness ladder to improve your communication style.

Even writers like me can get stressed even though we're just using our hands to do the talking, but having to sit for 7 or 8 hours is already stressful enough and have our own way to relieve stress. Whether you're the mail guy, the CEO, or probably the average working parent, stress is one unwanted visitor you would love to boot out of your homes, especially your life.

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Reyn

A Better Lifestyle to Eliminate Stress

2008-03-03T18:38:00.000+08:00

Some behaviors and lifestyle choices affect your stress level. They may not cause stress directly, but they can interfere with the ways your body seeks relief from stress. Try to:

Balance personal, work, and family needs and obligations.
Have a sense of purpose in life.
Get enough sleep, since your body recovers from the stresses of the day while you are sleeping.
Eat a balanced diet for a nutritional defense against stress.
Get moderate exercise throughout the week. · Limit your consumption of alcohol. · Don't smoke.
Social support. Social support is a major factor in how we experience stress. Social support is the positive support you receive from family, friends, and the community. It is the knowledge that you are cared for, loved, esteemed, and valued. More and more research indicates a strong relationship between social support and better mental and physical health.

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Reyn

Improve Your Time Management Skills

2008-03-03T18:34:00.000+08:00

Time management skills can allow you more time with your family and friends and possibly increase your performance and productivity.

To improve your time management:

Save time by focusing and concentrating, delegating, and scheduling time for yourself. · Keep a record of how you spend your time, including work, family, and leisure time.
Prioritize your time by rating tasks by importance and urgency. Redirect your time to those activities that are important and meaningful to you.
Manage your commitments by not over- or undercommitting. Don't commit to what is not important to you. · Deal with procrastination by using a day planner, breaking large projects into smaller ones, and setting short-term deadlines.
Examine your beliefs to reduce conflict between what you believe and what your life is like. Build healthy coping strategies.

It is important that you identify your coping strategies. One way to do this is by recording the stressful event, your reaction, and how you cope in a stress journal. With this information, you can work to change unhealthy coping strategies into healthy ones-those that help you focus on the positive and what you can change or control in your life.

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Reyn

The Art of Social Skills

2008-03-03T13:56:00.000+08:00

Have you come across a person who is so naturally friendly that when you put him inside a room of strangers, he'll be friends with almost everyone in no time? We call such a people-person, someone unbelievably nice and charismatic that he can charm anyone into doing anything.

A socially-empowered person achieves so much greatness, basically because of the people that catapult him to success. He earns the trust and all-out support of the people, whom he had helped before. He never runs out of help. He can do anything with the plethora of people behind him. All because he knows he maximizes his social potential!

See, if you know your social skills and you make use of them, you will reach self-empowerment. Self-empowerment is making a general overhaul in your life and turning yourself into a happier and more successful person.If you can be one of those people-persons, then I can't see any reason why you will not succeed. You just have to know how to start.

Be genuine
Hypocrisy will just bring you all the way down. Be genuinely nice and interested to people. Once they perceive that you are Mr. Hypocrite with selfish intentions, you might as well say goodbye to self-empowerment.
Be the greatest listener that you can be
To earn the love and trust of the people, listen to their problems and sympathize with them. Do not just hear them out, listen to them with your heart. Make eye contact when the person talks to you. Listen as if every word matters, and it does. Brownie points when they find out that there is a confidante in you.
Laugh out loud
I do not mean that you force yourself to laugh for every joke cracked by someone, albeit you do not find it funny at all.This means finding humor in things and not being too darn serious. A person oozing with an awesome sense of humor attracts crowds and eventually, attracts success.
Don't forget yourself
In the process of fluttering around like a social butterfly, you might forget yourself, allowing everyone to push you over. Remember, love and value yourself before anyone else. If you deem yourself respectable and worthy of affection, people will flock to you and not trample on you.
Do random acts of kindness
You don't have to do a John Rockefeller and blow your savings to charity. Little acts of kindness matters the most, and this can be as simple as giving someone a surprise you-take-care card or helping an elderly cross the street. When we were kindergarten students, kindness was taught to us and greatly practiced. Now is the time to revive the good deeds and this time, let them stay for good.
Contact your old friends
Sad how some friendships are destined to goodbye, but thanks to technology, you can do something about it. Relive the good old days by flipping your yearbook and look for the great people whom you want to communicate with again. Adding these old friends to your roster of support peers will surely make you feel good all over.
Develop your personality
Are you grouchy, grumpy and generally morose? Whoa, you can't go through life with those. Get rid of the bad traits and habits that perpetually hamper your growth. And really, who wants a grouchy friend anyway?
Be confident
Be able to stride to the other corner of the room and introduce yourself to people with that winning smile of yours. Just remember: be confident, not arrogant.
Practice control
When angry, don't snap at anyone. Never throw a tantrum. Stay calm and collected. Be adult enough to take control of situation and transform your anger into something more productive and passive. As soon as people think your anger goes to volcanic proportions easily, they will find it hard to come to you.
Keep nurturing your relationships
Your relationship with your family, friends and significant others is too precious that you must not neglect it whatever happens. Go out and have fun with them. Do things together. Happiness will never fly from your side as long as the people who matter the most are close to you.

In the end, using people for self-empowerment means becoming a better and more lovable person. It's a win-win situation: the people know they can turn to you anytime and vice versa.

Live your dream!
Reyn

10 Ways to Effectively Empower Your Communication

2008-03-02T13:45:00.000+08:00

There is so much to know about conversation that anyone could ever realize. You can go though watching talk shows; radio programs; clubs dedicated to public speaking; ordinary conversations; certain rules still apply when it comes to interaction through words. It may sound tedious, I know, but even though it's your mouth that's doing the work, your brain works twice as hard to churn out a lot of things you know. So what better way to start learning to be an effective communication is to know the very person closest to you: yourself.

What you know
Education is all about learning the basics, but to be an effective speaker is to practice what you've learned. My stint as guest at every Toastmasters' meeting I go to taught me that we all have our limitations, but that doesn't mean we can't learn to keep up and share what we know.
Listening
It's just as important as asking questions. Sometimes listening to the sound of our own voice can teach us to be a little bit confident with ourselves and to say the things we believe in with conviction.
Humility
We all make mistakes, and sometimes we tend to slur our words, stutter, and probably mispronounce certain words even though we know what it means, but rarely use it only to impress listeners. So in a group, don't be afraid to ask if you're saying the right word properly and if they're unsure about it then make a joke out of it. I promise you it'll make everyone laugh and you can get away with it as well.
Eye Contact
There's a lot to say when it comes to directing your attention to your audience with an eye-catching gaze. It's important that you keep your focus when talking to a large group in a meeting or a gathering, even though he or she may be gorgeous.
Kidding around
A little bit of humor can do wonders to lift the tension, or worse boredom when making your speech. That way, you'll get the attention of the majority of the crowd and they'll feel that you're just as approachable, and as human to those who listen.
Be like the rest of them
Interaction is all about mingling with other people. You'll get a lot of ideas, as well as knowing what people make them as they are.
Me, Myself, and I
Admit it, there are times you sing to yourself in the shower. I know I do! Listening to the sound of your own voice while you practice your speech in front of a mirror can help correct the stress areas of your pitch. And while you're at it you can spruce up as well.
With a smile
A smile says it all much like eye contact. There's no point on grimacing or frowning in a meeting or a gathering, unless it's a wake. You can better express what you're saying when you smile.
A Role Model
There must be at least one or two people in your life you have listened to when they're at a public gathering or maybe at church. Sure they read their lines, but taking a mental note of how they emphasize what they say can help you once you take center stage.
Preparation
Make the best out of preparation rather than just scribbling notes and often in a hurried panic. Some people like to write things down on index cards, while other resort to being a little more silly as they look at their notes written on the palm of their hand (not for clammy hands, please). Just be comfortable with what you know since you enjoy your work.

And that about wraps it up. These suggestions are rather amateurish in edgewise, but I've learned to empower myself when it comes to public or private speaking and it never hurts to be with people to listen how they make conversations and meetings far more enjoyable as well as educational.

Live your dream!
Reyn

"The Game of Life" Start Your Own Coaching: 7 Days Program

2008-03-01T14:08:00.000+08:00

Coaching is all about being a, well, 'coach' in the corporate world of handlers, front-liners and even a couple of benchwarmers biding their time to be given a chance to perform. I know how that feels when I go back to my regular day job. Some players are just MVP material, and some of them are just to support the MVP's so why bother sticking around? It sounds ironic when they say 'there is no I in team', but even the underachievers can be sore losers as well.

These are steps that can be done within the day, and no matter what, it takes determination to be a coach.

There is a WHOLE lot of talk these days about Corporate Team Building. There are many, many options: vacation packages, rope courses, on-going office games, ice-breakers, etc. Management can also purchase videos, books, and seminar packages to assist them in building up their organization into a team worthy of belonging. A little later I will give you some ideas of where you can go for information on these team-building tools.
The truth about motivation is waiting to be grasped! It is ripe and ready for you to put into action today. Don't settle for mind-numbing gibberish. Get practical in 3 small ways to begin looking forward to your alarm clock sounding off each morning before you huddle with the team.
Experience is the best thing despite of what course you graduated in. There is something about being a people person who knows how to stir the energetic side of one individual, and more so when you mix it up with an entire team.
To question a person by his or her performance is sometimes required, but never question their knowledge or their intelligence. Sadly, I have seen a few mistakes from past coaches who never seem to understand what a player has to go through to get the job right. It will lead to further aggravation and maybe even hostility. If you want the job done right, then go do it yourself. You'll see how it is to be at the receiving end and it will help your set a much better course for improvement.
Sending a player to the bench is probably the worse experience a coach has to go through, especially if your player is the top performer. In dealing with this kind of person, see to it that he spills his guts voluntarily. Egotism in a performer tends to make them lose their focus on even the smallest mistakes, then you can catch him or her red handed. Be firm, but understanding about it.
Don't allow your position to blind you from what you are supposed to do. Even coaches are human enough to think that they are far more superior, but only by rank. Even if you have been in their shoes when you were their age, it's better to dole out a piece of wisdom in order for them to realize that this will be for their own benefit.
Lastly, you should learn to trust yourself and your team. Decisions and performance are primarily your goals, and there are many of them to see if they could perform the task much more efficiently. So before you think about sending one member to the bench, have a good chat with him or her and see if they have any problems. If it's too personal, then just encourage them to do their best and it also helps to give them a good, encouraging slap on the back.

I guess there's all there is to it. Being a corporate drone myself, I know how important it is for a company to be successful, and we're all part of that success. Coaches are there not to make your work a little difficult just because you have either an attitude problem or not much a performer, but they're the guides who will help you perform as hard as you can possibly can. You'll do them proud one of these days, as well as you.

Live your dream!
Reyn

Coaching: The Way to Go in Team Leadership

2008-02-29T06:59:00.000+08:00

When you hear the word “coach”, what comes first into your mind? Do you picture a basketball team with a man/woman shouting out directions? Or perhaps a football team with a man/woman pacing to and fro and calling out the names of the players?

Coaching is no longer reserved to sports teams; it is now one of the key concepts in leadership and management. Why is coaching popular?

Coaching levels the playing field.
Coaching is one of the six emotional leadership styles proposed by Daniel Goleman. Moreover, it is a behavior or role that leaders enforce in the context of situational leadership. As a leadership style, coaching is used when the members of a group or team are competent and motivated, but do not have an idea of the long-term goals of an organization. This involves two levels of coaching: team and individual. Team coaching makes members work together. In a group of individuals, not everyone may have nor share the same level of competence and commitment to a goal. A group may be a mix of highly competent and moderately competent members with varying levels of commitment. These differences can cause friction among the members. The coaching leader helps the members level their expectations. Also, the coaching leader manages differing perspectives so that the common goal succeeds over personal goals and interests. In a big organization, leaders need to align the staffs’ personal values and goals with that of the organization so that long-term directions can be pursued.

Coaching builds up confidence and competence.
Individual coaching is an example of situational leadership at work. It aims to mentor one-on-one building up the confidence of members by affirming good performance during regular feedbacks; and increase competence by helping the member assess his/her strengths and weaknesses towards career planning and professional development. Depending on the individual’s level of competence and commitment, a leader may exercise more coaching behavior for the less-experienced members. Usually, this happens in the case of new staffs. The direct supervisor gives more defined tasks and holds regular feedbacks for the new staff, and gradually lessens the amount of coaching, directing, and supporting roles to favor delegating as competence and confidence increase.

Coaching promotes individual and team excellence.
Excellence is a product of habitual good practice. The regularity of meetings and constructive feedback is important in establishing habits. Members catch the habit of constantly assessing themselves for their strengths and areas for improvement that they themselves perceive what knowledge, skills, and attitudes they need to acquire to attain team goals. In the process, they attain individually excellence as well. An example is in the case of a musical orchestra: each member plays a different instrument. In order to achieve harmony of music from the different instrument, members will polish their part in the piece, aside from practicing as an ensemble. Consequently, they improve individually as an instrument player.

Coaching develops high commitment to common goals.
A coaching leader balances the attainment of immediate targets with long-term goals towards the vision of an organization. As mentioned earlier, with the alignment of personal goals with organizational or team goals, personal interests are kept in check. By constantly communicating the vision through formal and informal conversations, the members are inspired and motivated. Setting short-term team goals aligned with organizational goals; and making an action plan to attain these goals can help sustain the increased motivation and commitment to common goals of the members.

Coaching produces valuable leaders.
Leadership by example is important in coaching. A coaching leader loses credibility when he/she cannot practice what he/she preaches. This means that a coaching leader should be well organized, highly competent is his/her field, communicates openly and encourages feedback, and has a clear idea of the organization’s vision-mission-goals. By vicarious and purposive learning, members catch the same good practices and attitudes from the coaching leader, turning them into coaching leaders themselves. If a member experiences good coaching, he/she is most likely to do the same things when entrusted with formal leadership roles.

Some words of caution though: coaching is just one of the styles of leadership. It can be done in combination with the other five emotional leadership styles depending on the profile of the emerging team. Moreover, coaching as a leadership style requires that you are physically, emotionally, and mentally fit most of the time since it involves two levels of coaching: individual and team. Your members expect you to be the last one to give up or bail out in any situation especially during times of crises. A coaching leader must be conscious that coaching entails investing time on each individual, and on the whole team. Moreover, that the responsibilities are greater since while you are coaching members, you are also developing future coaches as well.

Live your dream!
Reyn

2008-02-28T14:04:00.000+08:00

Leadership Exposed: Things You Thought You Knew About Leadership
Much has been written about leadership: rules, pointers, styles, and biographies of inspiring leaders throughout world history. But there are certain leadership ideas that we ourselves fail to recognize and realize in the course of reading books. Here is a short list of things you thought you knew about leadership.

Leaders come in different flavors.
There are different types of leaders and you will probably encounter more than one type in your lifetime. Formal leaders are those we elect into positions or offices such as the senators, congressmen, and presidents of the local clubs. Informal leaders or those we look up to by virtue of their wisdom and experience such as in the case of the elders of a tribe, or our grandparents; or by virtue of their expertise and contribution on a given field such as Albert Einstein in the field of Theoretical Physics and Leonardo da Vinci in the field of the Arts. Both formal and informal leaders practice a combination of leadership styles.· Lewin’s three basic leadership styles – authoritative, participative, and delegative· Likert’s four leadership styles – exploitive authoritative, benevolent authoritative, consultative, and participative· Goleman’s six emotional leadership styles - visionary, coaching, affiliative, democratic, pacesetting, and commanding.
Leadership is a process of becoming.
Although certain people seem to be born with innate leadership qualities, without the right environment and exposure, they may fail to develop their full potential. So like learning how to ride a bicycle, you can also learn how to become a leader and hone your leadership abilities. Knowledge on leadership theories and skills may be formally gained by enrolling in leadership seminars, workshops, and conferences. Daily interactions with people provide the opportunity to observe and practice leadership theories.

Together, formal and informal learning will help you gain leadership attitudes, gain leadership insights, and thus furthering the cycle of learning. You do not become a leader in one day and just stop. Life-long learning is important in becoming a good leader for each day brings new experiences that put your knowledge, skills, and attitude to a test.
Leadership starts with you.
The best way to develop leadership qualities is to apply it to your own life. As an adage goes “action speaks louder than words.” Leaders are always in the limelight. Keep in mind that your credibility as a leader depends much on your actions: your interaction with your family, friends, and co-workers; your way of managing your personal and organizational responsibilities; and even the way you talk with the newspaper vendor across the street. Repeated actions become habits. Habits in turn form a person’s character. Steven Covey’s book entitled 7 Habits of Highly Effective People provides good insights on how you can achieve personal leadership.
Leadership is shared.
Leadership is not the sole responsibility of one person, but rather a shared responsibility among members of an emerging team. A leader belongs to a group. Each member has responsibilities to fulfill. Formal leadership positions are merely added responsibilities aside from their responsibilities as members of the team. Effective leadership requires members to do their share of work.

Starting as a mere group of individuals, members and leaders work towards the formation of an effective team. In this light, social interaction plays a major role in leadership. To learn how to work together requires a great deal of trust between and among leaders and members of an emerging team. Trust is built upon actions and not merely on words. When mutual respect exists, trust is fostered and confidence is built.
Leadership styles depend on the situation.
How come dictatorship works for Singapore but not in the United States of America? Aside from culture, beliefs, value system, and form of government, the current situation of a nation also affects the leadership styles used by its formal leaders. There is no rule that only one style can be used. Most of the time, leaders employ a combination of leadership styles depending on the situation. In emergency situations such as periods of war and calamity, decision-making is a matter of life and death. Thus, a nation’s leader cannot afford to consult with all departments to arrive at crucial decisions. The case is of course different in times of peace and order---different sectors and other branches of government can freely interact and participate in governance.

Another case in point is in leading organizations. When the staffs are highly motivated and competent, a combination of high delegative and moderate participative styles of leadership is most appropriate. But if the staffs have low competence and low commitment, a combination of high coaching, high supporting, and high directing behavior from organizational leaders is required.

Now that you are reminded of these things, keep in mind that there are always ideas that we think we already know; concepts we take for granted, but are actually the most useful insights on leadership.

Live your dream!
Reyn

Make it Happen! Be a Leader

2008-02-27T11:56:00.000+08:00

When you are at work, do you get frustrated because things don't seem to be happening the way they’re supposed to be? You see people milling around but nothing gets accomplished. And in the daily hustle and bustle, do you feel that your goals remain just that – goals. Then maybe its time for you to stand up and do something about it.

Most people are content just to stand around listening for orders. And it isn't unusual to adopt a follow-the-leader mentality. But maybe, somewhere inside of you, you feel the desire to make things happen – to be the head, not the tail. Then maybe leadership just suits you fine.

Some people believe that great leaders are made, not born. Yes, it may be true that some people are born with natural talents. However, without practice, without drive, without enthusiasm, and without experience, there can be no true development in leadership.

You must also remember that good leaders are continually working and studying to improve their natural skills. This takes a commitment to constantly improve in whatever endeavor a person chooses.

First of all, let's define leadership. To be a leader, one must be able to influence others to accomplish a goal, or an objective. He contributes to the organization and cohesion of a group. Contrary to what most people believe, leadership is not about power. It is not about harassing people or driving them using fear. It is about encouraging others towards the goal of the organization. It is putting everyone on the same page and helping them see the big picture of the organization. You must be a leader not a boss.

How to Become an Ideal Leader

First of all, you have to get people to follow you. How is this accomplished?

People follow others when they see a clear sense of purpose. People will only follow you if they see that you know where you are going. Remember that bumper sticker? The one that says, don't follow me, I'm lost too? The same holds true for leadership. If you yourself do not know where you're headed to, chances are people will not follow you at all. You yourself must know the vision of the organization. Having a clear sense of hierarchy, knowing who the bosses are, who to talk to, the organization's goals and objectives, and how the organization works is the only way to show others you know what you are doing.

Being a leader is not about what you make others do. It's about who you are, what you know, and what you do. You are a reflection of what you're subordinates must be. Studies have shown that one other bases of good leadership is the trust and confidence your subordinates have of you. If they trust you they will go through hell and high water for you and for the organization.

Trust and confidence is built on good relationships, trustworthiness, and high ethics. The way you deal with your people, and the relationships you build will lay the foundation for the strength of your group. The stronger your relationship, the stronger their trust and confidence is in your capabilities. Once you have their trust and confidence, you may now proceed to communicate the goals and objectives you are to undertake.

Communication is a very important key to good leadership. Without this you can not be a good leader. The knowledge and technical expertise you have must be clearly imparted to other people. Also, you can not be a good leader and unless you have good judgment. You must be able to assess situations, weigh the pros and cons of any decision, and actively seek out a solution.

It is this judgment that your subordinates will come to rely upon. Therefore, good decision-making is vital to the success of your organization. Leaders are not do-it-all heroes. You should not claim to know everything, and you should not rely upon your skills alone.

You should recognize and take advantage of the skills and talents your subordinates have. Only when you come to this realization will you be able to work as one cohesive unit. Remember being a leader takes a good deal of work and time. It is not learned overnight. Remember, also, that it is not about just you. It is about you and the people around you.

So, do you have the drive and the desire to serve required of leaders? Do you have the desire to work cooperatively with other people? Then start now. Take your stand and be leader today.

Live your dream!
Reyn

Happy as You Want to Be - Part 2

2008-02-25T18:32:00.000+08:00

News is stressful. Get less of it. Some people just can't start their day without their daily dose of news. Try and think about it, 99% of the news we hear or read is bad news. Starting the day with bad news does not seem to be a sensible thing to do. A religious connection is also recommended. Being part of a religious group with its singing, sacraments, chanting, prayers and meditations foster inner peace.

Manage your time. Time is invaluable and too important to waste. Time management can be viewed as a list of rules that involves scheduling, setting goals, planning, creating lists of things to do and prioritizing. These are the core basics of time management that should be understood to develop an efficient personal time management skill. These basic skills can be fine tuned further to include the finer points of each skill that can give you that extra reserve to make the results you desire.

Laugh and laugh heartily everyday. Heard a good joke? Tell your friends or family about it. As they also say -'Laughter is the best medicine'. Express your feelings, affections, friendship and passion to people around you. They will most likely reciprocate your actions. Try not to keep pent up anger of frustrations, this is bad for your health. Instead find ways of expressing them in a way that will not cause more injury or hurt to anyone. Working hard brings tremendous personal satisfaction. It gives a feeling of being competent in finishing our tasks. Accomplishments are necessary for all of us, they give us a sense of value. Work on things that you feel worthy of your time.

Learning is a joyful exercise. Try and learn something new everyday. Learning also makes us expand and broaden our horizons. And could also give us more opportunities in the future. Run, jog, walk and do other things that your body was made for. Feel alive. Avoid exposure to negative elements like loud noises, toxins and hazardous places. These are the few simple things you can do everyday to be happy. And always remember the quote from Abraham Lincoln, he says that, "Most people are about as happy as they make up their minds to be."

Live your dream!
Reyn

Happy as You Want to Be - Part 1

2008-02-25T18:29:00.000+08:00

Almost everyone have heard the hit single 'Don't Worry, Be Happy' by Bobby McFerrin. The song has a very catchy way of conveying its message of being happy to everyone. Bobby Mcferiin's simple message surely made a lot of people by telling them not to worry.
Living a happy, resilient and optimistic life is wonderful, and is also good for your health. Being happy actually protects you from the stresses of life. Stress is linked to top causes of death such as heart disease, cancer and stroke.

One of the better things ever said is - 'The only thing in life that will always remain the same is change', and in our life we have the power to make the necessary changes if we want to. Even if we find ourselves in an unbearable situation we can always find solace in the knowledge that it too would change.

Social networks or relationships are essential to happiness. People are different, accept people for who or what they are, avoid clashes, constant arguments, and let go of all kinds of resentments. If arguments seem unavoidable still try and make an effort to understand the situation and you might just get along with well with
Happiness is actually found in everyone, increasing it is a way to make a life more wonderful and also more healthy.

To be happy is relatively easy, just decide to be a happy person. Abraham Lincoln observed that most people for most of the time can choose how happy or stressed, how relaxed or troubled, how bright or dull their outlook to be. The choice is simple really, choose to be happy.

There are several ways by which you can do this. Being grateful is a great attitude. We have so much to be thankful for. Thank the taxi driver for bringing you home safely, thank the cook for a wonderful dinner and thank the guy who cleans your windows. Also thank the mailman for bringing you your mails, thank the policeman for making your place safe and thank God for being alive.

Live your dream!
Reyn

10 Humor Quotes

2008-02-25T18:24:00.000+08:00

Humor is indeed the best medicine there is whenever you are. I mean anyone can pay good money to listen to a comedian just to make you wet your pants after laughing so hard. Despite of what's been happening, and to those who has gone though the ordeal, it's better to just laugh while facing the troubles with a clear mind than anger with a clouded vision. One of the best celebrities of all time may have to be Woody Allen. Now this is one guy who gives you the in-your-face bluntness that he pulls out with gusto, even without even trying. You can talk just about anything with a man, and he's bound to mock the subject and you'll end up laughing rather than being upset about it.

Woody Allen has this to say:

"Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons." It sounds good to me, I mean the practicality of all things does involve money but it doesn't have to take an arm and a leg to get it.
"I believe there is something out there watching us. Unfortunately, it's the government." 'Nuff said.
"There are worse things in life than death. Have you ever spent an evening with an insurance salesman?" This happens to be one of the classic ones. I mean the issue about life's little problems isn't all that bad, until 'he' shows up.
Sure, relationships can get complicated, or does have its complications that probably any author about relationships is bound to discover it soon. We follow what our heart desires, unless you're talking about the heart as in the heart that pump blood throughout your body.
"Love is the answer, but while you're waiting for the answer, sex raises some pretty interesting questions." And if you want more, just keep on asking!
"A fast word about oral contraception. I asked a girl to go to bed with me, she said 'no'." It sounds, 'practical', I think. And when it comes to everyday life, he really knows how to make the best out of every possible scenario, and it doesn't involve a lawsuit if he strikes a nerve.
"Basically my wife was immature. I'd be at home in the bath and she'd come in and sink my boats." I never had a boat in my bathtub before. Just staring at it while soaking in hot water makes me seasick already.
"I am not afraid of death, I just don't want to be there when it happens." If it rains, it pours.
"I am thankful for laughter, except when milk comes out of my nose." It could get worse when you're guzzling on beer… or mouthwash, and it happened to me once!
"If you want to make God laugh, tell him about your plans." At least he doesn't smite us with lightning, and I'm thankful for that. And despite of what may happen to all of us in the next ten, twenty, or even thirty years, I guess we all have to see things in a different kind of light and not just perspective. I can't seem to imagine life without any piece of wisdom that could guide us. Whether we're religious or not, it takes more courage to accept your fears and learn how to deal with them is all that matters when it comes to even just getting along. And to sum things up, here is the last nugget of wisdom to go by… however, whenever, and wherever we may be.
"The talent for being happy is appreciating and liking what you have, instead of what you don't have."

Live your dream!
Reyn

Simple Ways to Effectively Control Your Anger

2008-02-23T02:48:00.000+08:00

Strong emotions like anger can affect your physical well being. Because of anger, you may experience chest pains, upset stomach, heart palpitations, difficulty in breathing, dizziness, high blood pressure, and other health problems (I did). Because of these, you need to find ways to effectively control your anger.

There are ways to deal with anger and here are some of the effective ways:

Determine the source and cause of anger. A strong emotion has to be resolved first. Unresolved anger escalates, and bitterness will show in your interaction with other people. Diffuse anger and it will relieve the stress in your system.

Talk to a friend. One of the best approaches to manage anger is to talk and confide to others. You may talk to a friend, counselor, or selected group with a common purpose to help each other. Talking to somebody about the feelings you have in your heart relieves tension. It is like unloading a heavy burden. It is not necessary that an advice be given. Just lending a listening ear is enough. Advice may be given if it is sought. It opens your mind to new ideas and perspectives that you may not have thought of due to the anger you have within.

In a group therapy, other people can help you. In the process, you can also help them when it is their turn to talk, and it is your turn to listen and show concern. A listening ear helps dissipate the amber of anger. At the same time, it rekindles gentleness in the heart.

Learn to forgive. By far, this is the best way for me to relieve anger. Forgiving may take a lot of effort. You may find it difficult to forget the hurt and anguish you went through. It takes a lot of convincing on your part, but it can be done. Forgiving releases you from the power other people have over you.

One technique my friend often use is the angry letter technique. Write a letter to the person who has caused you anguish and pain. Write in detail what he did and its effects on you. Feel the pain and anguish as you are doing the letter. In the end, write “I forgive you for all the pain you caused me. I wish you well.” Burn this letter and feel the release of negative emotions.

My own method to forgive is by logic reasoning. I will talk to the person who specifically make me angry or hurt my feeling directly. I'll be honest and share what I feel towards that person, because sometimes one do not know what he/she has done wrong. For me, trying to figure out why that person did such things can make me understand the situation from another point of view beside my own. 90% of the times, it's just a misuderstanding that could have cost us priceless friendship if go unsolved.

If you care about your physical well being, learn to control your anger. Try these simple steps and enjoy a healthy life!

Live your dream!
Reyn

Why Setting Goals Is Important

2008-02-22T14:37:00.000+08:00

What do goals represent by the way? These are actually representations of your visions about you and your future. Goals should be achievable and realistic. These kinds of goals allow you to put them into practice or at least do some activities that allow you to monitor your progress. However, more is involved in just merely setting realistic goals. Remember that in order to achieve your goals, you must act according to your goals. Otherwise, all else would be vanity if you do not exert effort in reaching them. The following will help you set achievable goals:

1. Enhance your skills in achieving targeted goals by setting objectives, as well as standard and optional activities that will help you meet your goals.

2. Strategize and take risks in meeting your goals. Strategic thinking is very important because this will allow you to be productive and focus on the activities according to your goals.

3. Act in accordance to your goals. Proper mind setting is very important in achieving your goals. Take the extra mile. Try taking risks but never compromise your safety. Taking risks means that you are ready to learn new things and challenges that will help you in the long run.

On one hand, you may wonder why there is a need for you to set goals if you think you have not failed at all in your endeavors. Remember that setting goals does not mean that you always fail. Setting goals means that you are acknowledging your limitations and you are ready to work your way up towards success, professionally or personally. It is for this reason why objective goals matter.

Remember that goal setting is focused on your benefits. So try working things out and focus, focus, and focus. Minimize or avoid distractions if possible so you can work your goals better. Work that proper mindset for a clearer vision of you achieving those valuable goals. If you are vying for promotion in your workplace, it is important that you see yourself already in the position you want. If you are aiming for a personal or educational goal, make things happen by planning and doing things related to your goals. You will then realize that goals, no matter how difficult they may appear, are still valuable to consider. Once your goals are achieved, sweet success knocks on your door commending you for a job well done.

Live your dream!
Reyn

Taking 100% Responsibility

2008-02-21T16:39:00.000+08:00

What will you say when you fail your math test? Most will answer: "Math is tough, that's why I fail.", "The teacher did not explain clearly, I can't understand a thing." or "The questions were difficult, it was totally out of my league." Can you see the pattern? All of the above are the acts of blaming anyone or anything except themselves. They think that anything bad happened to them is not their fault, they are playing the role of victims.

Few others will answer completely different. "I fail because I was not prepared well.", "I couldn't remember the formula because I was lazy.", "I did not understand a thing because I did not look for more information." They all take 100% responsibility of what happened to them, they fail because they only reap what they sow.

Now, there are two types of mindsets that distinguish champions and losers. One is the mindset. The winner responsible of anything going on in his/her life. I success because I deserve it, and I fail because I lack something. The other is the victim mindset. If anything bad happen, it will instantly blame others. It's like there are something greater out there that make the victims be who they are now.

The victim mindset is destructive! It makes you think that you are under control of some greater powers and can not do anything. You will never take actions to make things better. The opposite, winners, thinks that nothing else is responsible for their current state, they are fully in charge of their life. They will take actions if there is a room for improvements, because they are sure it is totally up to them to be a better person, to advanced in career and to live life to the fullest!

Create your winner mindset now. Let no one or nothing may prevents you from reaching your goals.

Live your dream!
Reyn

Why is It Important to Improve Ourself?

2008-02-21T16:28:00.000+08:00

Sometimes, when all our doubts, fears and insecurities wrap ourselves up, we always come up with the idea of “I wish I was somebody else.” More often than not, we think and believe that someone or rather, most people are better than us.- when in reality, the fact is, most people are more scared than us.

You spot a totally eye-catching girl sitting by herself at a party, casually sipping on a glass of Asti Spumanti. You think to yourself, “she looks so perfectly calm and confident.” But if you could read thru her transparent mind, you would see a bunch of clouds of thoughts and you might just be amazed that she’s thinking “are people talking about why I am seated here alone?... Why don’t guys find me attractive? …I don’t like my ankles, they look too skinny… I wish I was as intelligent as my best friend.”

We look at a young business entrepreneur and say “Wooh… what else could he ask for?” He stares at himself at the mirror and murmur to himself, “I hate my big eyes… I wonder why my friends won’t talk to me… I hope mom and dad would still work things out.”

Isn’t it funny? We look at other people, envy them for looking so outrageously perfect and wish we could trade places with them, while they look at us and thinks of the same thing. We are insecure of other people who themselves are insecure of us. We suffer from low self-esteem, lack of self-confidence and lose hope in self improvement because we are enveloped in quiet desperation.

Sometimes, you notice that you have an irritating habit like biting off your finger nails, having a foul mouth, and you – of all people, is the last to know.

I have a friend who never gets tired of talking. And in most conversations, he is the only one who seems to be interested in the things he has to say. So all of our other friends tend to avoid the circles whenever he’s around, and he doesn’t notices how badly she became socially handicapped – gradually affecting the people in his environment.

One key to self improvement is to LISTEN and TALK to a trusted friend. Find someone who you find comfort in opening up with even the most gentle topics you want to discuss. Ask questions like “do you think I am ill-mannered?”, “Do I always sound so argumentative?”, “Do I talk too loud?”, “Does my breath smell?”, “Do I ever bore you when were together?”. In this way, the other person will obviously know that you are interested in the process of self improvement. Lend him/her your ears for comments and criticisms and don’t give answers like “Don’t exaggerate! That’s just the way I am!” Open up your mind and heart as well. And in return, you may want to help your friend with constructive criticism that will also help him improve himself.

One of Whitney Houston’s songs says “Learning to love yourself is the greatest love of all.” True enough. In order to love others, you must love yourself too. Remember, you cannot give what you do not have.

Before telling other people some ways on how to improve themselves, let them see that you yourself is a representation and a product of self improvement. Self improvement makes us better people, we then inspire other people, and then the rest of the world will follow.
Stop thinking of yourselves as second-rate beings. Forget the repetitive thought of “If only I was richer… if only I was thinner” and so on. Accepting your true self is the first step to self improvement. We need to stop comparing ourselves to others only to find out at the end that we’ve got 10 more reasons to envy them.

We all have our insecurities. Nobody is perfect. We always wish we had better things, better features, better body parts, etc. But life need not to be perfect for people to be happy about themselves.Self improvement and loving yourself is not a matter of shouting to the whole world that you are perfect and you are the best. It’s the virtue of acceptance and contentment. When we begin to improve ourselves, we then begin to feel contented and happy.

Live your dream!
Reyn

Welcome to My Blog!

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I'm so excited in publishing this blog. I love the idea of personal development, where you can help yourself to achieve maximum success in life. And the most interesting part the idea to spread around this priceless life-changing experience to others.

Stay tuned, there will huge waves coming soon!

Live your dream!
Reyn